Wednesday, January 22, 2014


I don't bring up stuff like this very much, because i really don't have any desire to "share my weight loss journey" with, well, no offense.....anyone.  But i will share a little, but mostly, it's not really about weight loss. It's about growing stronger.

Several years ago, i shared a very personal bit over on Rage Against the Minivan, about my personal struggle with PCOS and obesity.  Very personal.  Writing that bit was an important turning point for me.  Like facing something you don't like, out loud, instead of just in your head.  Something about that makes the problem seem smaller and dealt with, like venting to a friend.  Just the venting makes the problem smaller.

This past year, after reaching a new high weight and seeing a trend of effortless and constant weight gain, i determined that i had to make a change.  I didn't know what change i had to make exactly, but i decided that if i could only start a trend, no matter how slow, toward being healthier, toward not gaining weight, that that would be better.  No lofty ideas about being skinny or losing 100 pounds in six months or getting into a non plus size pair of jeans, nothing  like that.  Just to head in the right direction, instead of the wrong one.  (There's your humble ambition, right there.)

So, i talked to strangers on the internet, who have dealt with similar body issues as me, and i made more changes, and that helped a lot.  I also determined to keep a habit to show up at the gym every morning before work.  Just show up and do something.  And don't hurt yourself.  I used to have a habit of hurting myself on treadmills.

The end of 2013 marked six months of keeping that habit.

And in six months, i've lost a solid 10 pounds.

Really, i lost those ten pounds in the first two months.  But i kept them off for four more months, and that's a trend in the right direction.

But the real point is not that.

The thing that i have really found is that i am so much stronger.

One of the times that i started getting on the treadmill in the mornings, before one of the times that i hurt myself and had to 'take a break,' i was seriously winded after ten minutes on the treadmill at a very slow pace.  And i felt self conscious for being the poster child for obesity.  But now, i consistently walk 30-40 minutes, five days a week, at a pace that will actually make you sweat.  I'm much less prone to injuries because i've built the muscles around my weak joints.  And instead of feeling self-conscious, i feel like a deep-cover super hero, masked by a deceiving outer layer, covering up the part of me that's getting stronger and stronger.

I am amazed at how such small changes have made such a big difference.  Sometimes i think that my resistance to making giant changes all at once might be just a manifestation of laziness.   But it isn't.  Making small long term changes, a little at a time, is a formula for success.  And patience is the fuel that gets you there.  Well, i definitely have to give the credit to God, who helps me to understand that patience has the ability to wait because it knows that a better end is coming.

And i might also think that i could revise my goal from "no matter how slow," to maybe something like, "even if it's really slow," because ten pounds in six months is wow, super duper slow.

And that's still o.k.  Because i'm stronger.


  1. Thank you for sharing; yet another reason you are so dear to me. A year ago, I weighed 251 pounds. Today I weigh 237, and 25 years ago, I weighed 380 pounds. It has taken baby steps and a ,lot of falling down and standing up again, and simply not eating more than I actually need, not THINK I need. Next time you go to the grocery store, put ten pounds of butter in your cart and realize that six months ago you carried that with you everywhere. Then put it back in the dairy case !!!

  2. You know, that particular blog entry is how I found you. I grew tired of the minivan blog, but I've never grown tired of you. Thank you for always being a positive inspiration. Keep growing stronger!

  3. Kris, i've imagined writing a book entitled "How to lose 100 pounds in 2-10 years." I have to do it first. :)

    Angela, i didn't remember that. It makes me so happy to hear your comments. :)

  4. Beth, I have been with Weight Watchers for over 25 years and I must say you are on the road to success. Small steps that you choose, determination, and the mighty God you serve, will improve your health which is the most important part of losing weight. 10 lbs is gone (never to return) now you are free to work on your next 10. As you have already learned, eating healthy, exercising, and never giving up is the answer. It's a journey and there is no end. You can and will do it because God says you can do all things through Him because He gives you the strength. Enjoy! Miss Alice

    1. I love you, Miss Alice! Thank you for your encouragement!

  5. I really like your approach. I keep beating myself up mentally because I know I am just going up in sizes and never down. I'm going to try your way and try to maintain where I am at. I just read the blog post you mentioned, and I loved it. I feel you about not recognizing the person in the mirror.

    1. Thank you, Merit. I don't think it ever does us any good to beat ourselves up. God is concerned with our character and our hearts, much more than our dress sizes. It means a lot that my very personal struggles can help someone else. <3


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